Living With Asperger’s Syndrome

Ben did very well in the early grades learning to read and spell. His writing, however, was atrocious. He became a wonderful reader and seemed to comprehend everything he read. Also, he became an excellent speller and absorbed correct grammar and punctuation along the way.

His math skills appeared to be the weakest link in his learning process. In the early grades, he did fine in math, but in middle school and high school, math was definitely a problem for him.

In kindergarten the children were playing “Duck, Duck, Goose.” It is a game that requires the one who is “it” to choose another child to be the next “it.” When he did not get chosen, he would cry and cry. We later learned this to be the beginning of a life filled with depression.

Some teachers learned that Ben would obey written commands better than oral instructions. During these elementary years was when we discovered there was a disconnect between what he heard and what his brain processed. Some, without realizing his disability, thought he was lazy or just did not want to obey. Ben has always appeared so very normal; however his disability was and is as real as one who can not get around without a wheelchair.

When Ben was nine years old a psychologist from the Mayo Clinic in Minneapolis, Minnesota, came to South Dakota, where Ben and his family lived at the time. It was then that he was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome. The psychiatrist explained that the Asperger's Syndrome was like an umbrella under Autism and under it was also Attention Deficit Disorder, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, and Depression (At least in Ben's case).

Shortly after the diagnosis Ben's dad was transferred to Randolph Air Force Base, TX. and we began the process of learning all we could about the disorder. Ben's mom heard about a conference that was going to be held in the Dallas area. Dr. Tony Attwood, the leading expert in the field of Asperger Syndrome at the time, was to be the main speaker. She attended the conference and came away with a wealth of helpful information.

As an aside, when Ben heard that she was going to the conference, he said, “Good, Mom. Maybe you can learn how I can make friends.” Ben had no friends and it was sad when his birthday came around because there was no one to invite to his birthday party. He realized this and was actually grieved because of it.

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What Are Some Signs of Asperger’s Syndrome?

Our grandson Ben was diagnosed as having Asperger's Syndrome, a high performing function of Autism, when he was nine years old. My wife and I noticed that when Ben was only three, four and five years old he became easily frustrated because he did not know how to use words. For example he would stand by a door he could not open and whine and cry until someone noticed what he wanted. We began to say the sentence he needed to say and ask him to repeat it. After he would repeat it correctly, then we would open the door or do whatever he wanted.

We, his family members, spent a great deal of time teaching him to verbalize rather than whine and cry. We even put up a sign which read “No whining zone.”

Around this same time frame, we began to notice how sensitive he was to loud noises. His mom and dad lived near an Air Force Base and when a plane would fly over he would cover his ears.

It was also during this time that his eating became somewhat of a problem. He would eat cold cereal, peanut butter and jelly sandwiches, and little else. Once my wife Sue insisted he try a bite of scrambled egg and he vomited. She did not try that again. Ben would not eat spaghetti or any form of pasta. We finally realized that his sense of taste and texture were affected the same as his sense of hearing. I believe the Autism literature covers the fact that many Asperger children (and perhaps adults) have issues with the senses of hearing, feeling, touching and tasting.

Ben was still undiagnosed as having Asperger's Syndrome when we observed these peculiarities .. They were just some of the behaviors he exhibited that we did not understand at the time.

When Ben started to preschool he had no idea the correct way to hold a crayon or a pencil. He would hold the very top of the pencil by the eraser end and try to write. Most children seem to know how to hold a cray or pencil by observing a parent or sibling holding it the correct way. We now know why he did not know how to do such a seemingly simple thing. Autistic or Asperger children are totally focused on self. They do not seem to notice things going on around them as normal children do.

Ben was obsessed with tiny things. When he started kindergarten, the teacher did not want the children to bring toys from home. Ben always had a tiny car in his pocket wherever he went. His mother began to '' frisk 'him every morning before school. One particular day after she had removed the toy from his pocket, she noticed that during the day he had broken his pencil into two pieces. Then he had something little to hold on to. We did not understand this behavior at all at the time, but since have learned the tiny toys cave has a sense of security much like Linus and his blanket in the cartoon strip.

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What Is a Form of Autism Called Asperger?

A life changing event affected our family eleven years ago when our grandson, Ben, at the age of nine was diagnosed with Aspergers Syndrome, which is a form of autism. My wife and I began to study and research the subject so that we could be better equipped to provide adequate help forBen. Until the time of his official diagnosis, we had no idea how the entire family would have been impacted.

The first thing my wife did was search for a definition of autism. Autism is described as a neurological disorder that affects a person's development in the areas of communication and social skills. She also learned that no two people will have exactly the same symptoms nor the same level of severity.

After hearing a lecture from a leading authority at the time, she also learned that Aspergers Syndrome is a high-functioning form of autism. Not unlike regular autism, there are many levels of severity. Most Asperger children are slow in learning to walk, talk and become potty trained.

Even though Ben, my grandson, was typically diagnosed at the age of nine, we have observed the symptoms of Asperger Syndrome in him since he was a baby in his high chair. For the last twenty years we have been actively involved with helping Ben. Our first hand knowledge and hands-on experience in dealing with his handicap uniquely qualifies us to speak with authority on this subject.

As a way to help other parents and family members deal with thetrajedy of having an Aspergers Syndrome child, my wife Suebegan writingarticles regarding her experience with Ben. She covers such subjects such as Asperger symptoms, early signs, school problems, medical treatment and counseling. In some of the articles she also includes essays written by Ben which express his feelings about being a person who has Aspergers Syndrome.

If you have a child who exhibits any signs of Asperger, you are encouraged to seek professional help from competent medical personnel who are specialists in dealing with autism. It may be that your child, after beingproperly diagnosed, does not have Aspergers Syndrome but it is better to be safe than sorry.

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Does My Child Have Autism?

The first year typically slips by with the usual flurry of bottle making, nappy changing and colic induced sleepless nights but you are content in the knowledge that this is a perfectly normal process that every parent goes through and certainly nothing to be unduly concerned about. For many it is after they help their toddler to blow out the first birthday candle that an uneasy feeling starts to manifest itself in the pit of their stomach. A silent unexpressed thought, could my child have autism? Or what is it that that is not quite right?

At about 15 months I began to instinctively feel that something was amiss. My beautiful blonde haired, brown eyed boy was not responding in the same way that my daughter had.

Family members usually mean well and can be highly supportive but are also often the first source to lead you astray. When you finally pluck up the courage to mention the Autism word you are immediately assailed with a multitude of alternative answers, boys talk later than girls being one I have heard a hundred times. They are more laid back than girls they naturally do not pay attention to you when you call them. You may then proceed to talk to your doctor about but they who may also say reassuring things like it is too early to tell if your child could be on the Autistic Spectrum of Disorders at this stage or is not the child walking or crawling fine so you just have to be patient.

For many when the day of reckoning about the dreaded Autism word finally arrives when someone impartial takes you away and points out what has been blatantly obvious to you for a long time, you do not have to worry about it. of Autism presenting themselves and sometimes your child needs a Psychological Assessment. This revelation of course is a mixed blessing. Yes it is a relief to finally talk to someone who openly discusses your unexpressed belief and fear that your child has Autism but unfortunately this also means there really could be a real problem and it is not just a figment of your imagination anymore.

However you do not yet have a diagnosis of Autism, Asperger's Syndrome or any other disorder on the Autistic Spectrum of Disorders, so your very first step has to be to get a full and comprehensive assessment of your child. Before this will be done you need to rule out the possibility of a physical cause of your child's difficulty such as Glue Ear which can cause severe speech delay problems and ensuing behavioral issues. Therefore you will need a thorough ear examination.

The Psychological Assessment is a very detailed set of tests that will require extensive knowledge about the parents, siblings and other family members behaviors which could explain a lot of your child's behaviors, any notes or information you bring with you will be very useful.

Whatever the outcome of this assessment now is definitely the time to trust your own instincts and move forward by educating yourself fully on how to really understand Autism and other personality disorders all said to be part of the Autistic Spectrum of Disorders. If your child does have Autism then Early Intervention in the forms of Speech therapy, Occupational therapy and Psychological assistance can make a huge difference to how much your child can progress during their early years.

Initially you will grieve for the child you thought you had but you will then come through this and embrace and love the one that you have been presented with. A diagnosis of Autism can be devastating so it is very important to get the help, support and advice you need for yourself and your partner as well. An Autistic child can put a huge strain on any relationship and this can further impact negatively on the child if not addressed and deal with. The entire family needs support and advice. Adopt the methods that best help you as individuals to cope with the news. Only then will you all be able to do everything in your power to give your child the best quality of life possible.

The first day I went to the local Mother and Toddlers and spoke openly about my son's learning difficulties was as good as any therapy session. With time you can learn to embrace your child's uniqueness and accept that although he may have a different perspective on the world or he may not be the little boy you ordered he still has a whole lot to offer.

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Helping the Child With Autism Develop a Sense of Agency and Initiative

God, I feel like I have no mind to use with others. I know I have a mind. It thinks. It sees. It reads. But this mind is different from others. This mind disappears in the presence of others. Others' minds are the boss of my mind. I am at the whim of everyone. I feel like a ball being tossed from one person to another. I am controlled by whomever I am in front of. It is as if the “other” controls me. I lose myself in the “others” presence. Myself, my mind, does not work with an “other.” It stops and goes blank. It is scary to not have a mind that I can use. It is like others stop me from existing. God, they have the control and I must adhere to their existence. They have not been left out. They are people. They have a personality. I do not have a personality. God, why did you leave me out?

This is one person with autism's experience. What is he saying? From my point of view, he is saying, “I do not have control over my body. He is also telling us that he can tell the difference between his experience and those of 'typical' people. He is explaining to us what is it like to not have a sense of self-agency. Self-agency is the ability of the self to take initiative, to regulate itself and to be the source of one's behavior. The person with autism does not have that ability. He can not literally control his behavior and his actions. It is not that he wants to be this way, but when one does not have a sense of self-agency that is his predicament.

He is also telling us that the very presence of another person makes him feel that he does not exist. He seems to lose his ability to communicate and then can not let us know what is on his mind. And finally, he is telling us how scary it is to live this way – no control over his body, no control over going blank and no control over feeling that he does not exist.

What can we do about his lack of self-agency?

1) We can incorporate within our own belief system that the autistic child does not have control over his body and that he lacks self-agency,
2) we can let him know that we understand that he lacks this control over his body,
3) we can adopt a belief that we need to recognize, validate and understand him,
4) we can adopt a belief that a sense of agency is developed in relationship to another person,
5) we can understand that agency is acquainted in the process of interacting with another person,
6) we can understand that the kind of interaction the child with autism needs is our understanding of what he is trying to communicate through his bodily behaviors,
7) Our goal is to not have him complantly adapt to us. This kind of adaptation to another makes him into a 'robot'. Instead it is through our understanding, validation and recognition that he can start to see himself and then 'use' himself with us, and
8) He needs to see and feel that there is 'space' for him in the relationship. This means that he is a partner in the communication with us. Along with giving him space, it is important that he can feel that he has an impact on us. We need to allow him to influence our behavior and thinking. This is accomplished by letting him make some of his own decisions and by letting him sway or change our thinking. By setting his own agenda he can start to feel his power and his agency. In turn, we need to communicate back to him a confirming response.

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The True Facts About Autism

Autism is a neurological disorder that most commonly effects the communication and social development in people. Signs of autism will often start before a child turns three. The illness literally alters the how the nerves and synapses connect and process. There are actually three different versions of autism, on the autism spectrum disorder chart, each having their own issues and severity.

The first disorder on the ASD is autism. Autism again causes problems with communication and social ability. The second is Aspergers Disorder causes problems with cognitive abilities and language. The final issue on the ASD spectrum is appreciated as PDD-NOS, which stands for Pervasive Development Disorder – Not Otherwise Specified.

What causes autism is still not known. There are many speculations, but nothing has been concretely proven. There is some evidence that it is genetically based, but researchers are still not sure it is caused by a random mutation or a combination of genetic issues. There has been debate over whether environmental causes could have been at fault for birth defects. In some instances autism has been linked back to metal, pesticides, or vaccines.

Boys are four time more likely to develop one of the autism spectrum disorders than girls are. Since 1980 the number of diagnosis of this disease has increased dramatically. Part of this is because of new developments in the process of diagnosing autism. Because of this it is hard to determine whether cases have actually increased or if diagnosis has become easier.

Children with autism show symptoms like having repetitive movements, this can include things like rocking or hand flapping. They may also be compulsive with things like following rules, arranging objects, or stacking. Children with autism are very resistant to change and can have meltdowns if forced to do something out of their comfort zone. They may also have a type of restricted behavior pattern. This can display in them becoming obsessed with a certain song, television show, or toy. Studies also show that 30 percent of children with autism spectrum will at some point cause injury to themselves, this can include things like pulling their own hair, hitting their head against things, and picking at their skin.

Parents will often notice that there is something wrong with their child in their first two years. Children with autism will not develop at the same rate as other children their age. Sometimes these children will actually regress in development. Early intervention and treatment with cognitive therapy can really help kids that are dealing with autism, but there is no known cure. Some children with autism will never be able to function in society on their own. And on the other hand some children react to treatment so positively that they lose their diagnosis of autism.

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Clomid and Other Fertility Drugs a Cause of Autism

On May 20, 2010, researchers from the Harvard School of Public Health presented their findings from a study exploring the possible relationship between the use of fertility drugs and autism spectrum disorder (ASD). The scientists reported to attendees at the International Meeting for Autism Research in Philadelphia that women who used fertility drugs to get pregnant had almost double the risk of having a child with ASD versa nonusers. The drugs studied included Clomid (clomiphene citrate) and Pergonal (gonadotropin).

This recent study is part of a growing body of research that strengthens the argument that Clomid and other similar drugs are a cause of ASD via their ability to deny cholesterol to a developing embryo shortly after conception. About 58% of ASD children have low total cholesterol (<160 mg / dL) and about 19% have extremely low total cholesterol (<100 mg / dL). The average level for children is 165 mg / dL. It has also been observed that a high percentage of children born with Smith-Lemli-Opitz syndrome (SLOS), in addition to a wide array of birth defects are also born with ASD. Infants with SLOS are born with a defective enzyme that impairs the body's ability to convert a precursor (7-dehydrocholesterol) to cholesterol. About 71-86% of these children suffer from ASD. Cholesterol is essential for growth of the myelin membranes that cover the brain and abnormalities in the myelin sheath are believed to be a contributing cause of ASD. Many experts that believe that low cholesterol during early embryonic development is one of the causes of ASD.

Clomid has a long half-life and is present during the embryonic period (first 8 weeks) even when taken before conception. Studies have shown it to be biologically active for up to 54 days after ingestion and that it can accumulate over successful cycles of treatment. In the Harvard study they found that the longer the use of fertility drugs, the higher the risk of developing ASD. A critically important fact – and one not known by most doctors prescribing the drug – is that Clomid is a cholesterol inhibitor and impairs its production by acting upon enzymes in the body similar to Lipitor and other statin drugs. Its chemical structure is also similar to the cholesterol-reducing drug, Triparanol, which was briefly available during the 1960s. Animal studies have shown that Clomid and Triparanol both act on the same enzyme and affect developing organs in a similar way, with Triparanol being slightly more potent.

Pergonal (also known as human menopausal gonadotropin or hMG) likewise reduces cholesterol, but by way of a different mechanism. Namely, it suppresses cholesterol levels in early pregnancy through its ability to elevate estrogen production. Studies have established that following hyperstimulation of the ovaries by Pergonal, the resulting elevated estrogen during the luteal (post-ovulation) phase of the cycle suppresses the level of total cholesterol . In fact, there is an inverse correlation between concentrations of estrogen and the level of total cholesterol – the higher level of estrogen, the lower the concentration of total cholesterol.

The GOOD NEWS is that many ASD children with low cholesterol, treated with cholesterol supplementation, have shown dramatic improvement. Scientists at Johns Hopkins University Medical Center, led by Dr. Richard Kelley, have shown such treatment resulting in improved mobility, verbalization, growth, behavior, sociality and alertness. More importantly, once we have a full understanding about a cause of ASD, we will be in a position to eliminate that cause and reduce the number of families affected by this tragic abnormality.

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Autism – Self Control Skills

Autism can be a very challenging disorder. Children have a hard time with self discipline at the best of times. Autistic children have even more trouble mastering this skill set. There are a variety of different symptoms and behaviors associated with Autism. Inappropriate behavior such as outbursts, aggression, and hurting themselves are common. A popular method that a lot of parents are utilizing is self control management. What this does is provide the child with the skills needed to learn to control the dangerous and at times violent behaviors.

Self control management is successful as it puts the onus on the child. They are not feeling controlled by others. Consistent structure and monitoring when and where the outbursts happens is key. Communicating with the child is essential. They need to be able to say how they feel or let you know what it was that caused the behavior. Starting with short period of time is best, and reassurance is key. Using 10-15 minute intervals is recommended and then reassures the child that they are ok, monitor in a passive tone, and make them aware of good and bad behavior.

This is also considered self evaluation. Once the child feels that they are in control and not being forced by someone else they become more aware of what is happening. You must set short and long term goals with the child. Start out with a morning, and plan for no aggressive behavior. Frequent review with the child is very important. If they are feeling overwhelmed then sometimes it's a bit soon for self management.

Once you have determined a comfortable level, you need to also incorporate a reward program. The child needs to realize that reaching the short term goals important. A reward program will help with this. They will also realize that they are closer to the long term goals. Many parents use a sticker system, or some other goal setting marker. It's a good idea to discuss with the child their likes and dislikes and set up a reward system that suits their needs. These programs take a lot of patience, but once mastered will be instilled for a lifetime.

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Autism Treatment – Using Probiotics in Autism Treatment

I want to discuss the different types of probiotics and what are considered general probiotics and those that are considered treatment specific probiotics. The options on the market for probiotics are many and varied. Three major examples of all around, multi-floral probiotic products are Probiotic Support Formula from New Beginnings, Therbiotic Complete from Klaire Labs and Multi-Flora Spectrum from Kirkman labs. There are certainly other forms but these are three very good, multi-floral probiotics that have a number of good bacteria in them. And a good way to understand the benefits of these probiotics is to view them as a multi-vitamin for the overall health of your digestive tract. Probiotic Support Formula, Therbiotic Complete and Multi-Flora Spectrum are all very helpful for the overall health of the digestive system.

Next we can discuss what I call the treatment specific probiotic options. Treatment specific probiotics are used to treat a specific disorder or issue within the body. Culturelle is one example of this. What Culturel is, is a specific type of probiotic called acidophilus GG and it can be very effective at targeting and going after clostridia bacteria. Quite a few people use Three Lac as a treatment for yeast since it is particularly helpful for that. So of course, you would not use Three Lac long term as an all around, immune and digestive support aid. You would use Three Lac with the intention to help control yeast overgrowth. VSL # 3 is another example of a treatment specific probiotic. It is a very potent probiotic that has been used successfully to break down oxalates. And while it does have some effectiveness against clostridia as well, for the most part it is used to help combat high oxalate levels. A fourth treatment specific probiotic is called Saccharomyces Boulardii which is a type of yeast that will attack another form of yeast called candida. So Saccharomyces Boulardii is used specifically as part of an anti-fungal approach because of this tendency to help control candida. It can also be very effective when used while you are taking antibiotics, it can prevent a yeast overgrowth from starting. Saccharomyces Boulardii also does have some effectiveness at fighting clostridia as well.

So as you can see, there are many probiotics out there and this was to serve as just a highlight. As a recap there are multi-floral probiotics which serve to enhance the immune system and to enhance the digestive system and then there are probiotics that are treatment specific that I outlined above.

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How To Improve Your Employment Prospects As An Individual With Aspergers

How can an individual on the autism spectrum feel empowered to improve her / his prospects of employment?

I am once again insulted to Mr. Gavin Bollard, author of the blog called Life With Aspergers. With his permission, I am including this second article on improving employment prospects for individuals on the autism spectrum.

About Gavin Bollard:

My main interests are Cinema, Computing and spending time with my family. I am married and have two boys (born in Sept 2000 and 2003). I've been with Notes / Domino since R3 and have been working (and playing) with Intel PCs since about 1986. Prior to that I was into the various 16K micros.

In part one of this series, I “lamented” the lack of services aimed at helping adults with aspergers find financial independence. There are plenty of services available to help children on the spectrum at school. Indeed neurotypical society tend to be quite tolerant of children with differences. Unfortunately society seems to have forgotten that children ever grow up and that adults on the spectrum still need help.

I ended my post with a couple of vague lists, one talking about what aspies can do to improve their job prospects and another dealing with how society can improve the situation. In this post, I want to look at what aspies can do.

Beware of Fake Jobs

Before I get into the lists from my last post, I just want to talk about a nasty employment problem that I've encountered on several occasions.

The phrase; “it's not what you know, it's who you know” sums it up nicely.

It's a sad fact of life that aspies with their limited social skills and fewer friends (compared to NTs) will often find themselves passed-over in job opportunities by people who either have a more engaging personality or who simply know one or more people who are in positions of power at the place you're seeking employment.

In fact, you'll find that many advertised jobs do not really exist at all. Some are just job agencies “fishing” for people to put on their books but others are much much worse. A lot of interviews are simply “box-ticking” exercises so that management can pretend that proper employment procedure has been followed before they give a job to someone they already know.

It's happened to me several times in my career. A position directly in my area of ​​responsibility becomes available and a new CEO who does not know me particularly well contacts a friend, to offer them a position they have not even interviewed for. A series of fake interviews is then arranged and “surprise”, the new person gets the job.

It's a painful experience which if you understand what has happened will make you feel under appreciated and “used”. Of course, most of the time (if you're looking for a new job, not a promotion), you will not even know what has happened. In those cases, it's simply a big blow to your self esteem.

You need to recognize that this is very common behavior. Quite often, your failure to secure a job will not be your fault at all. It will simply be that there was no job available. Do not blame yourself for these failures if you've given it your best shot. You should not take an esteem hit from shady management. Of course, that's much easier said than done.

Limit Your Education
This was always bound to be a controversial topic, so I apologise in advance for everyone who may be offended.

It's often assumed by people (aspies in particular) that good grades and higher levels of education guarantee good jobs. Nothing could be further from the truth.

Aspies need to learn that higher levels of education do NOT guarantee good jobs. In fact, they can often significantly reduce your chances of being employed.

Here's my recommended education rule. It's an aspie rule and not one that I'd want to see implemented by any organization. I'd just like individuals to take it onboard for their own benefit.

You're allowed ONE degree only before you have to get a job. If possible you should do your degree part-time. You're allowed to change your degree part-way through ONCE.

That's it. Simple. Now I'll explain my “stupid rule”.

When you start work, it custom to start at the bottom regardless of your level of education. I do not mean that a fledgling IT person has to start in the mail room but I do mean that you'll probably start somewhere below the normal level of operations, for example in testing or in first level support.

Employers like to pay low-level employees minimum wages. This usually is not possible if they have higher level qualifications since employees may look for people without them.

Assuming for instance that you have two prospective employees. One has a Computing Degree and a Doctor while the other is only in their third year of a computing degree part time. Now assume that the job is a helpdesk role.

It's almost guaranteed that the person doing their degree part-time will get the job. The more “qualified” person will be tagged as “over-qualified”. Even worse, employment agencies will often decide that the over-qualified person has other issues if they do not have a lot of experience. They may decide for instance that the person must be difficult to work with. They'll try to find a reason why they're not already employed in a good job – and if they find none, they'll make one up for themselves.

The other thing to be aware of is that people do not like to employ people who they think may be smarter than themselves. If you're better qualified than your prospective supervisor, then there's a pretty good chance that you will not get employed – or that the supervisor will make your life at work hell.

The other half of my rule says that you can change degrees once. That's because most people do not know exactly what they want to do when they start their degree. It's accepted that you'll probably want to change once you figure this out. Changing several times though does not indicate that you're still thinking. It suggests that you're confused.

If you're really confused, then it's time to get a job and worry about education later.

Further Education

I'm not ruling out further education. You can still get your doctorate if you want. That's ok. Aspies are capable of just about anything. I guess that I'm saying “just get some work experience behind you first”. Even better, try to stay employed and do further qualifications part-time. That way, you do not leave any gaps in your resume.

Limit Your Expectations

Most people go to work to earn money. They do not needarily enjoy it.

When I first started in computing, I assumed that the entire computing department went home on weekends and did development in their own time like I did. I did not think that maybe they wanted to spend time with their families.

My conversations with them were all about computers. I was amazed to find that several of them did not even have computers at home. It took a long time for me to get my expectations down to a manageable level and by the time I had, I'd insulted most of the team without realizing it.

The other thing to watch out for is the fact that because your work and hobbies can sometimes be inseparable, you'll typically get better and better at your job. Usually you'll pass your supervisor's level of expertise. When this happens, they usually will not be proud of you, they still will not appreciate contradictions and corrections and they'll probably be more than a little jealous.

In one of my jobs, I slowly took the manuals home to read (there were about 36 of them) for the AS / 400 system. I went from not knowing what an AS / 400 was to feeling very confident with them. I expected my colleagues to be happy about this but one of my work-mates stopped talking to me. I'd made him feel insecure.

Be very careful about your requirements and expectations. Not everyone is the same as you. Other people have different things which are important in life. They do not like being corrected and they do not like to feel threatened.

Be Less Picky About Your Initial Jobs

It's common to leave school or university with a whole heap of great plans only to be turned down at job after job after job because of lack of experience. Sure, there are jobs out there which do not require experience but they're low-level and menial. They're below your interest and you obviously do not want to do them.

Unfortunately we all have to start somewhere. You would not be the first person to take a job well below your mental capacity and to know much more than your supervisor. It may surprise to know that this situation almost never changes. It does not matter how high you rise in a company (unless you make it to CEO) there's always going to be someone above you – and they're almost always going to be less talented or have less vision.

There's not much you can do about this. Just start low and try to gain a lot of experience. If you've got talent, you should be able to find some time to do things which interest you and which do not get you into too much trouble.

In my first computing job, while I was supposed to be babysitting a room-sized “mini-computer”, I was also doing quite a bit of PC development. My boss was less than impressed but so long as I did what I was supposed to do, he let me continue. Occasionally, as my applications began to have obvious positive effects on the business, he loosened the reigns and allowed me to follow my natural urges.

Choose Suitable Jobs

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Autism Behavior Breakthroughs

Having a child with autism is one of the most challenging conditions a parent can go through. With so many different forms and levels of Autism each persons experience is unique, different and challenging, but one thing is the same: The difficulty of getting your child to behave.

A child with Autism depends on the type and level of Autism they have may have very sever autistic behavior to very mild autistic behavior. All in which can be improved upon no matter how sever or mild the case is.

Research shows that through the proper nutrition these children can function at a higher level when given a diet complete in vitamins and minerals. Although there is no known “cure” for this condition feeding your child a complete Nutritious diet improves their ability to use their mind more clearly.

Parents that have changed their child's diet have seen improvements with in days. When given the proper nutrients children with autism have made major breakthroughs in their behavior. Re-leaving some of the stress that comes with raising a child with autism. Parents have been able to become closer to their children with autism because their communication is at a higher level. Communication is important between a Parent and child. Autism creates a wall barrier between them that can at sometimes be difficult to deal with but by giving your child the proper nutrition that barrier can be thinned and a closer relationship can be obtained.

Some ways to introduce your child with better nutrition is by supplying them with plenty of fresh fruits and vegetables, all nutrition is fully absorbed through foods and only small amounts are absorbed through vitamins from supplemental pills. The best way to supply your child with proper nutrition is through healthy foods fresh fruits and vegetables are ideal to give your child the nutrition that they need.

Home grown fruits and vegetables are best because they are free from pesticides and are able to fully ripen, most fruits and vegetables found in a grocery store are gassed to ripen and are tampered with leaving little nutrition in them for our bodies to use, but supplying fresh fruits and vegetables fresh from a garden is best in nutritional quality.

By supplying your child with the best foods possible, supplies them with the best chance possible for results of improving upon their behavior by opening their minds to higher levels allowing you to communicate more clearly with your child.

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Various Symptoms That Are Common In a Asperger Child

Asperger's symptoms range from very mild to the very severe. Although, the most prevalent sign of Asperger's is a great deal of difficulty in dealing with social situations.

Children with asperger's syndrome have normal language and they are very intelligent and because of this they would be able to lead a very normal life. Although social situations are very difficult for them, they'll usually make a greater attempt to interact and fit in with others.

As every case of Asperger's is different because of every kid being different, one set of Asperger's symptoms is not present in every kid. Asperger's symptoms usually present themselves when the child is quite young at approximately 3 to 4 years of age. This is the time in their lives where they might start preschool and be among other children socially.

Common Asperger's symptoms include:

1. The kid's requirement for schedule in his life. The Asperger's child becomes distraught when there is a change. He craves stability and thus routine is soothing to him.

2. Complexity in reading other individuals' body language. Its confusing to him, as he is uncertainty of the meaning of other words and actions. Social cues are not recognized recognized by the Asperger's kid.

3. The lack of understanding of other people's feelings.

4. Staring at others or to the other extreme, avoiding eye contact, as it makes him uncomfortable.

5. Focusing on one or just a couple of interests. He will then take that interest to the extreme and become “expert” on the topic. Many Asperger's kids are extremely intelligent and express interest in unusual topics that do not particularly interest other children in his age group.

6. Facial expressions are unique, as is their stance.

7. Lack of expression in speech or a monotone sounding speech pattern. Will usually misinterpret what others are saying, as recognizing the tone or pitch of other's voices is hard for them to distinguish. Might often take off at something someone says when none is intended.

8. Speech might be formal, unusual or advanced for the Asperger's kid.

9. Often speaks what is on his mind and will talk endlessly on certain subject matters. Tends to verbalize readily.

10. The child with Asperger's is often sensitive to light, sounds and fabric.

11. Motor development may be disturbed. Might be awkward in normal, day-to-day skills, like holding utensils or playing sports.

Having one or two of the above Asperger's symptoms is usually not a cause for concern. If the child exhibits most of the above symptoms with the addition of difficulty handling social situations then more information and help must be taken by a medical professional that can work with him on modifications in behavior, and other significant treatment.

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Effective Ways To Parent Children With Aspergers

Parenting any kid could be a challenge. Kids with Aspergers can offer their parents a range of extra hurdles to pass through. It is important to fully understand the condition so as to be an effective parent to your child. Also, joining a community of parents with similar experiences can make your situation a great deal simpler to handle.

One of the most common problems which Aspergers could provide children with is the difficulty of determining and accepting some other individual's emotions. It is not so much that they're not able to feel the same emotions; its just hard for them to detect how some other individual is currently feeling.

Obvious signs like facial expression and tone of voice do not make it appropriate for these children. You can apply many social strategies that can help these issues. Exposing your kid to a variety of social stories and situations is perhaps the most common way to help him / her learn how to be empathic toward others.

It is important to know that there are several different treatment methods available for Aspergers. What might work for one kid may not work for your own. So, it may be a trial and error technique for finding an effective approach.

Understanding the various strategies for dealing with the condition will aid you utilize them to give them the best opportunities of being successful. Patience is a good quality with treating Aspergers, so keep that in mind as you go through the different methods.

Speak with your child's school about his / her development. Many children with Aspergers excel in academies, which could mean that they are not being completely challenged. Since they are illegally to speak up and ask for tougher assignments, its up to the parents to keep an eye on their kid's grades.

If you notice that your child is making straight A's in all of his / her classes, then you may have to suggest having them tested for a gifted class or possibly promoted to the next grade early. Some symptoms of Aspergers may become obvious when the child is bored during school. Gifted classes are typically beneficial to these students, as they offer smaller classroom sizes.

Joining a forum for parents of kids with Aspergers could provide a great deal of insight on how to efficiently handle your children's differences. Belonging to a community of parents that are struggling with similar problems as you do is a helpful way to gain support. Plus, be able to share advice among the parents make the membership worth it.

Many doctors that you discuss these issues with may provide medical jargon that you're unfamiliar with. Communicating with other parents can help you gain some of the best knowledge about your kid and Aspergers.

As you can see, children with Aspergers could suffer from a range of social challenges. As parents of these kids, its important that you learn all you can about the condition in order to assist your kid with his / her related issues ..

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How To Recognise Aspergers In Children

Although we all like our children to be perfect this is not usually the case and you'll learn to love them no matter what they might have or be. A condition that has become very common in children today is Aspergers and learning to handle the problems it may bring can be a challenge. You would have to research the condition well to fully understand what it is and how you can best help your child.

Aspergers is a condition which would stop children being able to communicate easily with people and they might find social skills to be more hard. These problems could lead to your child having behavioral and emotional problems and they might find it more difficult to make friends. Your kid may suffer from very mild or very extreme symptoms and the treatment and support is the same. Some children have such minor symptoms which you may may ever even notice and are usually never even diagnosed. Kids with Aspergers sometimes simply learn to live with heir condition and do not also realize they are different.

The lack of communication skills can cause issues as kids wish to make friends at a very early age. Their lack of discernment when it comes to judging how others are reacting could cause issues. Your kid may not even be aware that they are doing anything wrong and they often would talk without showing any interest to the individual they are talking to. Your kid may also find it difficult to understand humor and literal translations and may take things to heart. You would need to talk through different situations with your kid to help him understand.

Body language and facial expressions could even be misjudged by children with Aspergers and social relationship might be hard to establish. Your kid may even be attached to very unusual insignificant items and they might become obsessed with routines and interests. You would need to encourage these but also try to establish a relationship with a friend for them. As a kid they will need to play and socialize with other kids as this is a huge part of their growing up.

Children with Aspergers would also find it hard to creatively play and will lack imagination although they are normally of above average intelligence. They may be very good with facts and numbers so their strong lessons will be math and history. You will need to encourage these subjects and although they may struggle with other ones youought to try to encourage some form of learning in them too. There is no specific cure for Aspergers and all you can do is support and encourage the child to achieve the best they can with their lives.

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Teaching Children With Autism to Read

Teaching your child the skills to read and being patient with the development can be quite painful and also a daunting task. The parents have to put more efforts multiple times the normal case in case the child is suffering from autism. These children are weak and take time to grasp the texts and understand them. They are slow to read and absorb the meaning of alphabets and combine them as words and this where the parents have a role to play.

Teaching Children with Autism to Read: Understanding Your Child's Unique Needs

It is very unfortunate for few children to suffer from autism. They face with touch challenges since they are not able to express their feelings of thoughts. Their way of communication and their social interaction lags behind and this forms the largest hurdle in their life. However, there are a few special characteristics that are gifted with that serves as their strength. You must be very patient and interactive when you are teaching such children.

a) The child may be frustrated and highly discourages and often feel inferior in the society. They find it difficult to perceive things in and around the world.
b) They also lack the common social skills which is the largest barrier.
c) They fear in facing people and often feel disconnected from the entire world and this is why they feel reluctant to appear in public.
d) They get irritated easily and it is difficult for you to fix any schedule for him. They follow their own needs and have their own specific wants.
e) Few children are also not comfortable with physical contact. They need the extra support and constant push for their activities.

To help them to learn and be able to comply with the society, you need a lot of patience and understanding.

Teaching Children with Autism to Read: The Importance of Reading comprehension, Learning Words and More Tips!

It is quite evident that the reading is one of the weakest fields for the children suffering from Autism. They are not able to perceive and never feel comfortable with the letters. It is tough for them to understand and assimilate things properly. Even if they read the letters with difficulty, they find it very difficult to join the letters as words and understand the information they are reading. According to experts, the best way to interact with the children is to use stimulating and cheerful activities. Few songs and interactive books with touch and feel with mix of music is much more interesting for them.

You must learn to demonstrate the words and explain the real meaning though pictorial images since this is the way they understand better. If you know how to express the gestures and use the body to effectively pronounce the words or digest the meaning, it is more useful for the child.

These learning techniques are not generic for all the children. They may differ with others and you should be patient to find the right approach. It is quite unquestionably that you can teach them with conventional teaching style. Few children find pictorial images to be more interactive, while others find pronunciation to be more helpful. The best way is to try different approaches and find the right method and apply the technique in teaching. Try to understand what the child expects and what is amusing for him. If you are expecting something realistic, you are going wrong.

They may also forget things and find it difficult to recollect past incidences or learning. So, you must put in a habit of repetition and help them with learning so that they develop the art of remembering and applying thoughts. If you are able to act the words, it might be more helpful and useful for the child. Reading the words and trying to impersonate or describing them will help them a lot. Go slowly and try to figure out if they understand the words. For these children, learning should be more of a fun activity rather than a mandatory exhaustive exercise.

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